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By Rebecca Teti

Tuesday: Open Forum

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Changing Roles)

This is the Open Forum Coffee Talk. That means ... anything goes. Ask a question, make a suggestion, share a story, offer some advice -- the floor is yours!

Rebecca Teti


  • Any families dealing with the issue of the new policy with the Boy Scouts? Any thoughts and concerns?

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 8:52 AM by Scout Mom

  • Good morning! I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first, and I've recently developed sciatica. Has anyone had any success treating it? My doctor offered physical therapy, but I'm not convinced it'd be worth it for these last few weeks.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 10:10 AM by DW

  • DW, I had it with both my boys - no fun! My doc seemed to think it was just one of those things that shows up with pregnancy sometimes, so I never did anything about it, other than stand up veeeerrryy slowly so my hips wouldn't give out and sleeping mostly sitting up in a recliner b/c lying down pretty much immobilized me. It went away within a month or so of delivery. But if your doc thinks pt might help, it might be worth it depending on how difficult the sciatica is making your life. :-)

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 11:04 AM by Anna

  • DW, I had it with 4 pregnancies. The PT does help and gives you good stretches to do after delivery. Since it is your 1st, it will give you good strategies for delaying its onset with any subsequent pregnancies. Also, ask your doctor for a temporary handicapped parking permit. I found I only had a limited number of steps every day before I couldn't walk, and not wasting them in the parking lot of the grocery store was a big help. Lastly, get one of those blow-up pilates balls (I bought mine at 5 below, but they have them in Target, Wal-Mart, etc), and sit on it instead of a chair, much less pain. Prayers for you for a safe and healthy delivery, and less pain until then.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 11:20 AM by Danielle M.

  • Scout mom: Our Priest has written a letter to us all, that he can no longer support the BSA holding meetings at our parish due to their policy change. I can see his point, and yet, I wonder what will happen if all the good Catholic/Christian families pull out?

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 12:22 PM by Anon7

  • My husband wants to "surprise" family members and go visit them...but, after a surgery, and with my Mum having heart issues, I have already told her we are coming, and to please "act surprised". I want to extend the same courtesy to his Mom and Dad--who have their own health/blood pressure issues...but I don't want them to tell my husband that I *tipped them off* to our arrival...what to do?

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 12:41 PM by Lynnea

  • Scout Mom- While I do not have Scouts right now, I do have young kids and am trying to think through this dilemma too! My problem is that the Catholic Church acknowledges that homosexuality is not a sin, but that acting on it is. We are all called to chastity, hetero or homo sexual. So, if we as a Catholic church shun the BSA because they are doing what we are supposed to be doing, isn't that hypocritical? I think that if we turn away homosexual boys from our organizations, we are sending the wrong message to the public. (However, I'm not sure how I feel about my 12 year old son discussing these sexual issues with someone else his age- but frankly, how would that be different than school?) I would hope that BSA troops are not really having these kind of discussions about sexuality.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 3:48 PM by JM

  • Lynea - I don't think there is anything you should do. I don't think you should have told your parents and then ask them to lie. All you had to do is tell your husband you don't want to surprise your parents and let him know you were going to tell them. Honesty is the best policy. With his parents I think you have to let him do what he wants.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 4:41 PM by Monica (momof2)

  • I agree with JM. I don't understand how the change in policy will change anything that we experience with our 3 boys in scouts. They don't talk about sexual activity, there are very few "openly gay" boys at their ages, and even if there were, whatever happened to love the sinner but hate the sin? What about unchaste hetero boys, should we have them banned from scouts too? I have very close friends who are homosexual. They are trying to live a sin-free life, as am I. We all fail, that's how we're made, but we try again. I don't see how this will change the Boy Scouts, and I am sad to hear of priests who are banning them because of their acceptance of any boy interested in belonging.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 4:51 PM by Danielle M.

  • Thank you Danielle M and JM! I'm hoping participation in scouting will help to reinforce some important values for my son - friendly, courteous, kind, yes - but also unwilling to discriminate.

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2013 at 11:34 PM by Alabama Mom

  • Yes, the Church teaches that it is homosexual activity not inclination that is sinful (and the same goes for the inclination to be unchaste as a heterosexual). My concern is, once boys who identify as homosexual (and openly live as such) reach the level of young adult and want to be in leadership/mentoring positions. Certainly, ALL Scouts (boys and men, regardless of sexuality) must be encouraged to live a "morally straight" life when it comes to sexual purity/chastity. Are the Scouts doing a favor to boys who "identify" as homosexual by "accepting" that this is ok instead of fostering a healthy, natural sexuality? That being said, I agreed that Scouting isn't the place to be talking about sex. That is the parent's job.

    Posted on Jun 5th, 2013 at 6:26 AM by Scout Mom

  • Hi! I am a mom of 4 and was recently diagnosed with uterine prolapse. I am very worried and uncomfortable. I have pain in my lower back and lower abdomen. I am wondering if this has happened to anyone else, is there anything to make my symptoms feel better and any chance to have more children, etc..

    Posted on Jun 5th, 2013 at 11:26 AM by worried