Let's Talk About Our Marriages

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By Rebecca Teti

Thursday: Marriage

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Changing Roles)

Struggling in your marriage? Have some relationship advice to share? Have a marriage success story to share? Have a man/woman question? This weekly thread is the place to do it.

Come on in and join the conversation!

Rebecca Teti


  • Praying for healthy & strong marriages for everyone, marriages that are filled with love & forgiveness...& especially for those who are struggling in their vocation to the married life. I thought I would share a really beautiful & richly theological tradition of the wedding ceremony as it occurs in the Eastern Catholic Churches -- the Office of Crowning (or ceremony of Coronation)...in this part of the marriage ceremony, the heads of the bridegroom & bride are crowned by the priest (Eastern European tradition uses crowns of gold or silver, Greek tradition uses crowns of leaves & flowers). The priest blesses each with the crown in the form of a Cross, the couple venerate their crown with a kiss, then the priest crowns them with crowns. The crowns are crowns of joy, but also crowns of martyrdom, since marriage involves self-sacrifice. Crowning indicates that the marriage is much more than a mere civil union. The couple is Crowned in the Kingdom, Crowned for the Kingdom, Crowned with the Crown of the Messiah God - the Lord Jesus Himself. The Holy & Sacred Mystery of Marriage becomes a Divine Encounter bearing the Presence of the Incarnate God. The vocation of marriage is a participation in the Self-Sacrificing and Life-Creating Love, Passion, & Resurrection of Christ. Crowning also signifies the bridegroom & bride as “king & queen” of their home/family, the domestic church. Following the Crowning, the priest leads the couple 3 times around the altar on which a Bible & cross rest. This ritual dance predates Christianity, representing the dance around the Ark of the Covenant. The choir sings 3 hymns (hymns which both praise God & catechize the bride & groom) as the couple circles the table. In this act, the couple takes their first steps as a married couple, with the Church (through the priest) leading them.

    Posted on Mar 28th, 2013 at 11:46 AM by Patricia

  • I should have posted this yesterday, because it's about NFP, but I was wondering- with the Marquette method, does it matter if the test sticks are past their expiration date? I hate to pay full price for them, and there are a lot on Ebay that are marked down because they are expired or nearly so. Also, is there another cheaper way to buy them that I'm missing?

    Posted on Mar 28th, 2013 at 12:25 PM by MaryC

  • I just read this tonight and thought it interesting that it was a coffee talk about "OUT" marriages...hmmm...it seems that the first post dealt directly with "out" marriages....I'm not trying to be mean, it just struck me as a bit funny.. As a way to say thank you and give a bit of a prayer report ~I have been one of the posters in years past who have really felt like I was in the middle of a tough marriage. I would post here once a month or so and truly was buoyed up by many readers here. After following many people's advice most notably :Patricia, Anna, StephC, Michelle and several others as well as praying HARD through Saint Rita for help from our Lord, I can honestly say I am in the marriage now, that I have always dreamed of and prayed to have as my own! Miracles still happen! So, thank you and know that the ripples of kindness have reached the shore! And I am enjoying the waves!

    Posted on Mar 29th, 2013 at 1:35 AM by Anon7

  • Anon7: I didn't even catch the " 'Out' vs. 'Our' Marriages" typo when I posted yesterday. Thank you for sharing with all of us how God has been working in your marriage & in your life...Glory & thanks be to God! And that you, St. Rita! May you continue to be blessed!

    Posted on Mar 29th, 2013 at 6:56 AM by Patricia

  • Another typo...that should have said: THANK you, St. Rita!

    Posted on Mar 29th, 2013 at 6:57 AM by Patricia

  • Anon 7: great news about your marriage (and thanks for the laugh about "out marriages"; I didn't notice that either!). I sure wish more of the regulars from the old F&F (such as Steph C, Michelle, Lina MGM, etc) would find their way over here!

    Posted on Mar 29th, 2013 at 8:51 AM by Claire S