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By Rebecca Teti

Tuesday: Open Forum

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Changing Roles)

This is the Open Forum Coffee Talk. That means ... anything goes. Ask a question, make a suggestion, share a story, offer some advice -- the floor is yours!

Rebecca Teti


  • I have a potty training question. My daughter, almost 3, has recently mastered going number 1 on the potty but asks for a diaper to go number 2. Does anyone have any suggestions for tackling this? I haven't attempted to address it yet. Thanks!!

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 9:15 AM by Amanda

  • My temperature has been slightly elevated all week, though I pretty clearly am not post-peak. I've also been treating a pretty aggravating case of athlete's foot. Am I crazy for thinking these could be related? I wouldn't have expected athlete's foot to involve much of an immune response, but I do have some pretty significant swelling of my toes and the ball of my foot.

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 9:30 AM by Kathleen

  • Amanda: If you have the patience, I would just wait it out a little longer. It took my youngest daughter months to go # 2 on the potty. The same is true for one of my nieces and a friend's daughter --- this is pretty common. We tried rewards, we tried making her help clean the messes, we tried the bottomless approach. You are more than welcome to try any of these, too. But none of them really worked for us and it just happened on its own for no specific reason. With our little girl, I think she genuinely didn't know it was coming, but your daughter is asking for a diaper so something like rewards may work. If your daughter is pretty predictable, have her sit on the potty for ten minutes or so at that time --- give her books to read, turn the TV on --- something to make her sit still for a while.

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 9:44 AM by Andrea

  • I am looking for suggestions for First Communion presents. My son makes his First Communion in a few months and I know we are going to get gift questions soon. We have plenty of Bibles, children versions and complete versions. We have dozens of Rosaries. I'm not a clutter/knick-knack person, even religious knick-knacks. So many of the things advertised for First Communion I can tell within a year or two are just going to be taking up space (picture frames, special trinket boxes, etc). So, any suggestions? What are some favorite presents your children have gotten? Any gifts or books you love to give to kids this age?

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 9:47 AM by Andrea

  • Andrea, we sometimes give a Magnifikid subscription. Or the Glory Stories CD of Blessed Imelda, the patron saint of First Communicants. There's a book Amy Welborn put together from Pope Benedict's talks with children about First Communion; a book about the child's patron saint could be a good idea too. I know what you mean about the "trinket" types of things. One or two might be fine since it's nice to have that special First Communion rosary or whatever to keep (since with something like Magnifikid, you couldn't do something like give it to your grandchild), but inundation can be a problem. :-)

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 11:02 AM by Anna

  • Andrea, Thanks for the suggestions! I'm usually a wait it out/let it happen on its own kind of mom...so that's probably what we'll do for a little bit. If she doesn't come around we'll use some of the reward ideas. She's already used to the reinforces we used for general potty training. :) have a good afternoon!

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 12:13 PM by Amanda

  • Andrea, We've given our boys a chain (I've been told boys don't wear necklaces:)) with a medal of their name saint on it. They've also been given small statues of their name saints. My one son really likes St. Michael the Archangel so his Godparents gave him a statue of St. Michael. I know you said you weren't knick-knack and neither are we. The boys statues sit on a the headrest of the bed. They like to say their saints are watching over them while they sleep. My in-laws gave my boys an entire set of saint biographies that were written at the 3rd grade level. They started out as read alouds but eventually my boys read them all on their own. Now they read them to their younger brothers so they were a great investment. Good luck coming up with a list!

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 12:37 PM by Jenny

  • Kathleen - if your athlete's foot is causing some inflammation, I would think it could cause a slight fever. Not what you'd usually associate with a fungal infection though.

    Posted on Feb 12th, 2013 at 6:01 PM by Carolyn A

  • Andrea, What a blessed event for your son! Some First Communion gifts that we have found to be especially enjoyed & meaningful are an icon of your child's Patron Saint, a medal of St. Tarsicius (boy martyr who gave his life to defend the Blessed Sacrament), & the following books: Bl. Imelda Lambertini: Patron Saint of 1st Communicants & The Weight of a Mass. God bless!

    Posted on Feb 13th, 2013 at 8:48 AM by Patricia

  • Kathleen, I would have it checked by a doctor is you haven't already. You could have a pretty serious infection going on there.

    Posted on Feb 14th, 2013 at 3:16 PM by JMBD