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By Danielle Bean

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Danielle Bean


  • My son split up with the mother of his young child. They were together for over four years, but never married. She began a relationship with another one of my sons before she and my granddaughter moved out of their home, and she continues to have a relationship with him, the brother of her child's father. This has caused terrible emotional and spiritual upset in our family. We all have been devastated by this situation. We spoke to a priest and tried counseling, but the difficulty in dealing with the dishonesty, betrayal, lack of loyalty and the brokenness of our family seems to leave everyone with no answers or hope of resolving the hurt. Being told they are adults does not ease my pain. I am very worried for my grandchild and my sons. In my lifetime I have seen Catholic family values slipping away. I know I must pray, but also would like reassurance that I am doing the right thing not acknowledging or accepting this relationship as something good. I have one son who has been hurt deeply, feel I have lost my other son and believe this will not be an ideal or beneficial situation for my grandchild. Any thoughts or advice would be most appreciated. Thanks and God Bless

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 7:44 AM by unknown

  • Unknown...I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I can't imagine the heartbreak. I don't have any words of advice, but I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 8:15 AM by Allison

  • Thanks for your prayers Allison

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 9:34 AM by unknown

  • I'm in a bit of a funk because of the election. It feels like no one believes in family values or building community life anymore. I don't want to get into a debate about politics, and I know that God is the Lord of History, but I feel sucker punched nonetheless. Who has tips for getting over it?

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 10:42 AM by Jane

  • Jane-- I understand where you are coming from. Yesterday I took solace in a google search finding out that St. Joseph is the patron of the Universal Church. I also found out that there is a 30 day novena to him. I started it today praying for the conversion of souls and for our Church. St. Joseph is a powerful intercessor.

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 2:23 PM by Alis

  • I'm a little exasperated...Every once in a while I'll check out articles on ncregister.com and other Catholic news sources. I'll read the comments section too (something I should not do). In these comments I've noticed that as Catholics we are so divided and critical of each other. In one instance, there were those who are critical of the US Bishops not doing their job. In other instances, Catholic comments vilified help to the poor. As Catholics, aren't we supposed to exhibit obedience and corporal works of mercy?

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 2:55 PM by Alis

  • Thanks for the commiseration, Alis. I'm not always certain the commenters at the Register are even Catholic. Can't speak about their news articles, but at least their bloggers seem to have a lot of atheists who come over to debate. Which is healthy, I guess, but I agree that it gets exasperating when you can't have a pleasant, civilized discussion even at a "Catholic," site.

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 4:49 PM by Jane

  • Today this first comment is my third story I have heard about Catholics who divorced or betrayed each other. And everyone can see it is so often nowadays. Jesus's blood may cure these wounds of our Catholic Church. And let show the world that the Sacrament of Holy Marriage can lead us through financial or human difficulties. In situations when both you and your husband say no, God still says YES. WIth prayers and love Monika (wife of Peter, and mother of 4 children so far)

    Posted on Nov 20th, 2012 at 5:16 PM by Monika from Hungary (Europe)