Education Friday

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By Rebecca Teti


Fridays: Education

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Changing Roles)

Whether your children attend school or are homeschooled, this is the spot to ask questions about curricula, religious education, parent-teacher relationships, or academic concerns of any kind.

Please join us!

Rebecca Teti

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  • HI Rebecca you may not remember me, it has been many years! I live in Raleigh/Cary NC and probably 10 years or so ago I met you here I believe in a training for RC. I am an artist and this months issue of Catholic Digest used a copy of a painting I did of St. Francis de Sales - for the calendar. My art is used to help educate and re-vive a love for the saints. I am wondering if CD might be interested in doing a feature about this form of worship through art?

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 7:13 AM by ann burt

  • I am in the middle of a very tumultuous situation concerning my Pastor, and the education of my children, and I would like the feedback of the group of Catholic Moms who visit this site. I moved to my current State with my family 3 years ago from one of the most conservative, reverent Dioceses in the county. To say the casualness of my current parish was a shock to us, is an understatement. I asked for permission to educate my children in the faith at home, and was told they would have to participate in the parish program in order to receive the Sacraments, so I have complied. Over the years there have been several instances of the children being taught things they were not true, or them being told that things we were doing at home were not really part of the faith. One example, a 2nd grade teacher told my son that the Jesse tree was not a Catholic tradition, since she had never heard of it before. The Mass is also quite casual, a lot of jokes, clapping, no silence before or after, very casual dress, etc. In short, we were trying to make the best of it. Recently, my children participated in an Epiphany Pageant as part of their religious ed requirement. After reading through the script, the younger children asked me why there were 3 Queens accompanying the 3 Magi to visit Jesus in the pageant, as they had never seen Queens in any Nativity set or any book depicting the event. I emailed my Pastor, and asked him why the story seemed to have been rewritten for the purpose of the show, and received a very hostile, sarcastic response in reply detailing all the reasons modern nativity scenes are not accurate (i.e. no donkeys, oxes, camels, etc. in the original). He concluded by telling me "Based on your misunderstanding of the biblical details of the Infancy Narratives [the Christmas story] I am convinced more than ever that homeschooling your children would be detrimental to their proper faith formation. As your pastor, I must also say that, given the rash judgment with which you condemned parts of our Epiphany Pageant, you also need to be properly trained in the current teachings of the Catholic Church on these [and no doubt] other matters. What we learned as a child was good for us … when we were a child. But as Saint Paul said [paraphrased], “when I was a child I thought … acted … like a child … but now that I am a man I must let go of childish ways of thinking /acting …” The same goes for us." I am very unsure what to do right now. I feel as though Father's response was very unkind and totally missing my point. I do strive to learn about my faith and teach my children well. How would you react in the face of such hostility?

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 8:25 AM by Danielle M.

  • Wow Danielle. If I were you, I would approach the bishop and give him a copy of that email, which was way over the top.

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 9:07 AM by Claire S

  • Oh boy, Danielle--that's a lot to deal with. Basically, I agree with Claire S, and will add you to my prayers. I too have struggled with incorrect teaching at the parish--and that in the school. With the parish religious ed, you're usually dealing with volunteers, so I would expect even more misinformation, but not Queens at Epiphany, nor such a reply. Prayers for you and your family (and your pastor!) as you work it out.

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 9:53 AM by Mary Therese

  • What Diocese is this?? Our Diocese, Buffalo, has had it share of very liberal priests, like most others, but one can always find a parish more in line with the church. 3 queens?? That is really out there!!!

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 10:35 AM by G

  • Danielle-I wouldn't go to that church anymore. Look around surrounding towns for a different church. Where do you live? Try finding a church that offers a Traditional Latin Mass or search online for Catholic homeschoolers in your area for their suggestions for a more reverent NO Mass.

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 10:47 AM by MMH

  • Here the Jesuits wrote this about the wise men. http://www.ignatiusinsight.com/features2008/smiesel_epiphany_jan08.asp

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 3:18 PM by unknown

  • @ann burt: Why don't you submit a proposal to queries@catholicdigest.com . Guidelines for how to submit are on the home page under "Writer's guidelines" at the very bottom. @Everyone: In full disclosure, I deleted a lengthy response to Danielle M. from frequent commenter Jeanne in Florida. Jeanne made a fair point: that so much of what we "know" about the Magi is more traditional (small t) than canonical that including extra persons in an Epiphany pageant is not necessarily a sign of heresy. However, her response also included insults and threats which are not in keeping with the tone of conversation we want here. Differences of opinion are welcome -- that makes for rich conversation-- but shaming people for not seeing things the way you do is out of line, and I will always delete such remarks if I notice them.

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 3:18 PM by Rebecca Teti

  • And now that Rebecca has graciously stepped up to help recreate the amazing tone we used to have over at the old blog, I will continue to be a faithful and happy reader. I love hearing all the positive, enriching people's perspectives!

    Posted on Jan 11th, 2013 at 5:34 PM by :)

  • Amen!

    Posted on Jan 13th, 2013 at 3:44 AM by Jen