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By Rebecca Teti


Thursday: Marriage

(Join each day’s Coffee Talk discussion: Mon: Parenting; Tues: Open Forum; Wed: NFP; Thu: Marriage; Fri: Education; Sat/Sun: Changing Roles)

Struggling in your marriage? Have some relationship advice to share? Have a marriage success story to share? Have a man/woman question? This weekly thread is the place to do it.

Come on in and join the conversation!

Rebecca Teti

Comments

  • I'm trying to get my husband to stop drinking. He drinks at least a 6-pack a night, but denies that he has a drinking problem. He's not abusive or neglectful or anything like that. He's a wonderful husband to me and father to our two children. But I feel like I can't trust him to be responsible when he's drinking that much. Any advice would be wonderful.

    Posted on Apr 4th, 2013 at 7:14 AM by unknown

  • Ask him why he is doing that. Talk about what the underlying causes are.

    Posted on Apr 4th, 2013 at 11:16 AM by unknown

  • Unknown, You cannot "get him" to stop drinking. He has to do that. Have you gone to any Alanon meetings? They might help you. If he denies he has a problem, there isn't much you can do about it except put boundaries in place such as "no driving and drinking", "no making decisions when you are drinking" . Also, how does he react when you talk about it? Does he get defensive? There is an underlying cause that he needs to address.

    Posted on Apr 4th, 2013 at 3:20 PM by J who has experience with alcoholic husband

  • J, Thank you for your response. I have experience with drinkers in my family, but never with an alcoholic husband. I really don't know what constitutes an alcoholic, but I know he drinks too much. He does get defensive, saying "I KNOW" when I tell him he has a problem, or tells me he's had "enough" when I ask him how many beers he's had. I know some of the issues (PTSD from being in NYC on 9/11), but I don't know how to handle them.

    Posted on Apr 6th, 2013 at 8:30 PM by unknown