The Catholic Digest Wedding Guide - more frequently asked questions

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  • Lisa HarrisOctober 31, 2014

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  • Charles LorfingOctober 8, 2014

    My daughter who was raised Catholic but not confirmed is engaged to a non-catholic Christian wants to have get married in a Catholic church building, but not necessarily a religious ceremony...Is this possible?

  • Charles LorfingOctober 8, 2014

    My daughter who was raised Catholic but not confirmed is engaged to a non-catholic Christian wants to have get married in a Catholic church building, but not necessarily a religious ceremony...Is this possible?

  • Daniella MorrisOctober 8, 2013

    Hi My husband and i were married in a civil ceremony 3 years ago, as my husband is not Catholic. We now have one child who is raised catholic and baptised as such. My question is regarding a wedding blessing. I am unsure of the procedure or whether it is possible for us to have a wedding blessingas my husband is not catholic and we are already civily married? Thank you for you help.

  • Charlotte July 26, 2013

    I have to say that according to True Catholic Doctrine more than half of this information is incorrect. If you're really interested in what marriage through the catholic church consists of and requires, my suggestion is to refer to the Catechism of the Council of Trent and any other information you can find written before the year 1960. It makes me so sad that a priest is the one providing this information.

  • Veronique Veroniquecassar@gmail.comApril 16, 2013

    Hi, I'm the bride and I will be marrying next year. My parents are both deceased and I would like to ask about the offertory. Since I don't have family, can my future his and and I take up the offertory together with his parents? We live in Malta, where tradition is very much expected. I am worried about this offertory because I do want a part of my family (that's me) to be involved in it, not just the groom's side! Thanks

  • Anita ShunkJanuary 31, 2013

    These should not be here as the ANSWERS. Each parish and diocese has many differences. Many priests would feel that, a couple having had a civil ceremony, thereby committing sin should have a quiet ceremony. This priest CANNOT speak with authority on how these matters are handled. It will just lead to more upset, when the couple goes in saying, but I READ ONLINE that this is OK!

  • Theresa ThompsonDecember 24, 2012

    So the couple who is living together are being Celibate?????? If not they are in a state of mortal sin and this needs to be addressed no mater what it costs!!! For shame father!!!!!!!!'mmmm

  • Catholic Digest Editors April 24, 2012

    If we don’t have a Mass with our wedding ceremony, could my fiancée and I still take Communion? If my fiancé is not Catholic, may he receive Communion? Communion is customarily received during the celebration of Eucharist. The only time it is allowed to be given outside of Mass is when it is brought to the sick. When a Catholic marries someone who is not a Catholic, the rite for the celebration of marriage outside of Mass is followed. Only with permission from the local bishop can the wedding take place within Mass. At the same time the bishop can grant permission for the party who is not Catholic to receive Communion. Talk to your pastor. _________ The Directory for the Application of Principles and Norms on Ecumenism published by the Pontifical Council for Christian Unity (Pontificium Consilium ad Christianorum Eunitatem Fovendam) contains the following: "Because of problems concerning Eucharistic sharing which may arise from the presence of non-Catholic witnesses and guests, a mixed marriage celebrated according to the Catholic form ordinarily takes place outside the Eucharistic liturgy. For a just cause, however, the diocesan Bishop may permit the celebration of the Eucharist. In the latter case, the decision as to whether the non-Catholic party of the marriage may be admitted to Eucharistic communion is to be made in keeping with the general norms existing in the matter both for Eastern Christians and for other Christians, taking into account the particular situation of the reception of the sacrament of Christian marriage by two baptized Christians." (#159) On March 25th, 1993, His Holiness Pope John Paul II of happy memory approved this Directory, confirmed it by his authority and ordered that it be published. "Anything to the contrary notwithstanding." The directory is used by Catholic bishops throughout the world when making decisions concerning mixed marriages and other inter-church celebrations. You can read the complete text of this directory at http://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/pontifical_councils/chrstuni/documents/rc_pc_chrstuni_doc_25031993_principles-and-norms-on-ecumenism_en.html It all comes down to how an individual bishop interprets the direction. Once an exception is made and the decision to grant the exception is left to the discretion of the local bishop, the local bishop tends to apply the exception broadly. In other words, some bishops will reason that if they can allow the non-Catholic groom to receive Holy Communion at the wedding, then why not let the groom's non-Catholic mother? And if the mother can receive, why not the father? And so forth. Some bishops understand their authority as benignly paternal. They will be gracious and indulgent with the people they serve. Other bishops see their role as keeper of the rules and will be strict and unyielding in applying the letter of the law. While you or I may favor one or the other, both function within the customs and traditions of the Catholic Church. And some bishops delegate the authority to grant the particular permission to others in the curia or even to the local pastors. This delegation may not be supported by the rules, but it's done anyway. So that broadens the application even further. That is why, when it comes to weddings or anything that people want from their local church, it's always best to ask. Some pastors will say yes, and some will say no. Some bishops will grant permission, and some won't. But in order to find out, you have to ask. I have on occasion been surprised by what a bishop will allow or won't allow in his diocese. That's why, once again, it's important to ask.

  • Myrtle MaxwellApril 24, 2012

    The FAQ's are good.I have a question.My son who is 30 .living in Gulf.married a 43 yr old woman in a secret marriage assisted by the priests after obtaining a dispensation from banns.The marriage banns were not published in his parish church where he received the sacraments of Baptism and Confirmation.There was no practical emergency in holding the marriage in secret from his parents or relatives.Was he not in a state of sin in dishonouring his parents? The Catholic Church used to say that sex other than for procreation was considered a sin. How is that a healthy male is allowed to marry a woman past her childbearing age? Is this marriage valid?

  • Anne Marie McCarthyApril 22, 2012

    2 comments: Our diocese, the archdiocese of Philadelphia, PA, as far as I know, does NOT allow "Here Comes the Bride" and Mendelssohn's "Wedding March." I believe the reason to be that they are from operas that they detract from the sacredness of marriage. As to the bride and groom processing in together, Fr. lists the order of the procession as "the ministers, the priest followed by the bride and groom." I thought the bride and groom WERE the ministers of the sacrament of marraige?

  • Patricia MartinApril 16, 2012

    Go to catholicweddinghelp.com, too. There are hundreds of questions and answers there.

  • AnonymousOctober 28, 2011

    The question about receiving communion for non-Catholics needs to be clarified. http://www.catholic.com/tracts/who-can-receive-communion

  • AnonymousJune 29, 2011

    Can a priest marry you outside the church?

  • Nancy February 17, 2010

    I was disappointed that Fr. didn't mention the fact that the couple had been living in sin by living together before being married in the Catholic Church and then at the Mass they'd most likely receive the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ. I think that some sort of penance/confession should have been mentioned. People are so confused these days and think nothing is sin so why don't the priest tell it like it is. To be a Catholic all of the rules are for everyone, or maybe I just didn't read the 10 Commandments right.

  • AnonymousFebruary 3, 2010

    Thank you for these insightful answers!

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