My Child, The Atheist

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  • Trey GardinJune 27, 2014

    I think the one big difference between atheist parents like me and Christian parents is that I won't be upset if my children grow up to be religious or atheist, while many Christians (and other religions) don't seem to be as accepting. Your article coincides with my view. I only wish for my children to come to their own conclusions using reason and critical thinking while at the same time having respect for themselves and others around them. Don't give up on your atheist children as if they are failures. Because the truth is they are not.

  • Heart BrokenMay 8, 2014

    I am a Catholic mother who lives, breaths and LOVES her faith. I have three adult children, one who is a very strong Christian and two who have recently declared their atheism to me. If what you say about what "causes" atheism is true, how do you explain this? There are many devout Christian parents (and I am thinking in particular about a husband and wife that I know who are BOTH Anglican priests) who have adult children who become atheist. I have looked EVERYWHERE for support for my ever-growing depression over my two children's choices and was hoping that this article would give me some peace, but it is accusatory and judgmental (like many of the articles/books I have read on this subject). I do appreciate, however, your list of what not to say to an adult child (thank you for that!). If you really want to address the issue, please offer some guidance and support for parents in my situation. Answer our questions: Why do I feel like I've killed someone? Why do I feel like I have lost my child? Why do I feel like God has abandoned me? What did I do, not do? How do I fix this? How will I accept Heaven (if it is even offered to me) if I cannot enjoy it with my precious loved ones? When the time comes, I feel like I will have to respectfully decline the offer so that I can stay by my children's sides and wipe their tears when they discover that what they rejected was The Real Thing. A mother does not abandon her children, in life or in death.

  • Nelson HernandezApril 30, 2014

    As an American from a hispanic background, you have NO CLUE what you are talking about. I started in the church since birth. Roman Catholic. At the age of 5, I was born again. I conintued this path up to my 20's and was even on mission when I started looking at the "other side" This is what lead me to my atheism and from other atheist I know, them as well. The inaccuracies of the bible. The contridicting stories and teachings. Science and understanding our reality are what lead me down this path. You make this strawman argument that is not real. There are very many christians that are from broken homes. Actually, I notice that the more problems one has the more likely they will seek comfort in some form of organized religion. Please get your facts straight. Talk to atheist, heck you can even email me. I'll help you sort out the truth. nelsonahern@gmail.com

  • Bre HillFebruary 18, 2014

    This article is...depressing. Not because of the stories of people with broken homes(which is always sad), but because it is so grossly inaccurate. Broken homes and bad parents are NOT what makes someone atheist. What makes someone an atheist OR an agnostic, is skepticism, critical thinking, logic and common sense. The only things broken homes or bad parenting would likely produce in and of itself, is skepticism, but that is ENTIRELY up to the individual. Many atheist come from very good homes, with perfectly upstanding, bible(insert-religious-text-here) abiding parents that live what they preach, love what they believe and believe it with all their hearts. People become atheists for all kinds of reasons, but mostly they (seem) to do it because of reason itself. Ultimately, it is a very personal decision, that has been given much thought, and you are unlikely to change an atheist's mind on the subject, particularly ones who have done their homework and given the question of existent the thought it deserves. While I did appreciate the things on your "things not to say to an atheist," most of the article was misinformed. Perhaps talk to atheists who are still atheists and talk to people with different backgrounds and experiences. You said it yourself that atheists appreciate honesty. This article was not honest.

  • Vin RohmSeptember 16, 2013

    Really? You really want to make such false claims about atheists. I happen to be an atheist, and a member of the Catholic Church. I joined the church for my wife, not because I believe in Gods. My childhood home was not broken. My parents were devout Christians and remained together for 55 years. And I started to doubt the God story about the same time I began to doubt Santa Claus. I hid my doubts in my youth. I was too scared that I would disappoint my parents, and I loved my parents and never wanted to disappoint them. As I grew up the things I learned only confirmed my doubts. And once I was an adult I no longer feared upsetting my parents and I came out as an atheist. Admittedly, my intellect is uncommon....measured in my youth at 184 IQ. That may have a lot to do with it. I also have strong inclinations toward science and math, and spent a career as an analyst; a job I excelled in. What makes one an atheist is a strong inclination to critical thinking and a dependency on evidence. And when there is no evidence, such a person is inclined to doubt any positive claim. That's my story. The kind of atheist you are talking about is someone who never investigated the question of God, and such a person is just as likely to become a theist without any further investigation. It's people like you who give atheists a bad name. We don't all come from broken homes. We are not immoral; proportionally speaking, there are far more Christians in jail than atheists. We don't hate god or religion, we simply doubt such a thing exists. I can't disprove the existence of God, but then that's not my responsibility. Rather it is yours to prove god. I have nothing against believers....I used to want to be one of them. But it's not in my nature to believe on faith alone. Saint Thomas had that problem also.

  • George DavisSeptember 15, 2013

    You make atheism sound like a disorder. In fact atheism is liberating and intellectually honest. I no longer believe in invisible supernatural beings and silly catholic dogma. Face it religion is on the decline and the reason is reason. To say that atheists all come from a broken home is ridiculous. What is ridiculous is the tenets of christianity and they don't come more ridiculous than catholicism. There is no god, no devil, no heaven and no hell. There are pedo priests, however.

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